I'm Retired & Divorcing. Are My Finances Going to Be a Wreck?

How to Navigate a Divorce After You Retire
How to Navigate a Divorce After You Retire

Retirement is a major milestone that most couples look forward to. But some couples find the transition to retirement negatively impacts their marriage, sometimes resulting in irreconcilable differences and divorce. Rates of late-in-life divorce, also called “gray” divorce, have risen considerably since the 1990s. In fact, 10% of all divorces now involve couples age 65 and older, according to the American Bar Association.

Going through a divorce after retiring can be complicated, as you’ve likely spent many years saving and planning for your future as a couple. You and your spouse may have already begun collecting Social Security benefits and drawing down your pension or retirement savings, making these assets trickier to parse out. A financial advisor can help you map out your finances and plan for retirement after your divorce.

Navigating the Legal Process of Divorce After Retirement

From a legal perspective, how you divide your assets is determined in part by where you live. In community property states, including Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin, all assets need to be divided 50/50 by law. But things work differently if you live in a common-law state. Instead of dividing your assets 50/50, assets need to be divided equitably, which means both parties need to agree to a fair split.

As you can imagine, coming to an agreement on a fair split is often trickier than simply dividing things in half. Hiring a divorce attorney can make the process simpler, though it will come at a cost.

Dividing Retirement Assets in a Divorce

How to Navigate a Divorce After Your Retire
How to Navigate a Divorce After Your Retire

While your name is on your IRA or 401(k), your spouse may be entitled to some of your savings. Again, speaking with an attorney might help you better navigate the process of dividing your retirement assets. In the case of 401(k)s, both parties will likely need to file a qualified domestic relations order (QDRO) in their home state. These orders outline how a couple’s retirement savings should be divided. When dividing assets, keep in mind that a direct rollover is likely the most tax-efficient option for both you and your former spouse.

IRAs work slightly differently. You won’t need to file a QRDO to divide your IRAs, though you and your former spouse will need to come to an agreement on what to do with these assets. You can generally only do a direct rollover to a former spouse’s IRA once you have a divorce settlement in hand and inform the account custodian.

Dealing With Social Security and Pension Benefits in a Divorce After Retirement Dividing Social Security benefits and pension payments are two common challenges that retired couples face as they navigate a divorce. Here’s what to keep in mind with each: Social Security

If you’re collecting Social Security payments, the payment amounts could change when you get divorced. That’s because you may be entitled to a portion of your former spouse’s Social Security payments. Likewise, they may be entitled to a portion of your payments, depending on the benefit amount each of you receives. Per the Social Security Administration, your ex may receive a portion of benefits if: